Dr. Jacqueline Cahalan
Licensed Psychologist
Therapy, Consultation, and Coaching for Parents in New York State


ABOUT ME
I am a licensed psychologist and a mom. My educational and training background include a large emphasis on child and adolescent development and mental health. In my career I have worked with children, parents, and families in a variety of school, hospital, and community-based settings.
However, despite my clinical training and experience, it wasn’t until I became a parent myself that I truly understood the emotional complexity, challenges, and continuous demands of raising kids. There is often tremendous pressure to be a “perfect” parent, when in reality raising kids is often messy, unpredictable, and not at all how we "planned" it to be. It can be confusing and overwhelming trying to navigate all of the conflicting information and advice about what is really best for your kids. In reality, there is very little about parenting that is "right" or "wrong," and instead it is about what works best for your child and your family based on your specific needs, values, and priorities.
I love working with parents and having the opportunity to integrate all of my knowledge, experiences, and clinical skillset to meet people wherever they are at and work to help them feel more content, balanced, and empowered as they navigate their lives.
Some of the common themes and questions that often show up in sessions:
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"Perfect" parenting is an impossible standard (and it doesn't really exist). How can I let go of this expectation?
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What are the ways that residue from my own childhood experiences is showing up and impacting me as a parent?
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How can I show up for my kids the best that I can? Even when it's really messy? Even when things are really hard?.
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How can I provide my family with consistency and clarity when the world is so often chaotic and unpredictable?
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How do I find a balance between giving my kids the autonomy they need to grow while also keeping them safe? Especially when the systems designed to support us are often imperfect.
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How do I tune out others' opinions and stop comparing myself to them so that I can make the decisions that are best for myself, my child, and my family?
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How can I be more clear on what I need and what is important to me so that I can be more intentional in life?
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How can I better understand my child's behavior so that I can both meet their needs and also have things be more harmonious at home?
AREAS OF FOCUS
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Parent stress, anxiety, and overwhelm
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Navigating phases of child and adolescent development
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Supporting children with ADHD, Anxiety, Depression, PTSD, BiPolar Disorder, Psychosis or other mental health concerns
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Managing meltdowns and other challenging behaviors
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Adjustment difficulties relating to grief and loss, transitions, and other stressful life events
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Supporting parent-child relationships
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Setting appropriate limits and establishing effective routines
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Parenting for the long-term: cultivating resiliency and autonomy
EDUCATION
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Ph.D. in School Psychology
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New York University, September 2008
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B.S. in Human Development and Family Studies
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Cornell University, June 2000
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- New York State Psychologist License #018155